How To Feed New Parents

If you think that brining a meal to new parents is a nice gesture, you’re right. But! It’s ALSO a sanity, energy, hair pigment saving act.

Making a sandwich, seems easy right? Well you ungrateful sandwich maker, try doing it while being a new parent.

vegitarian meal train ideas

You see, new parents aren’t like us, let me explain; if you’re reading this around lunch time, you can probably get up, walk towards the fridge, put something together and come back to finish this blog. Easy!

A new mom on the other hand, will be hungry (sometimes hAngry), while feeding her baby for the 10th time in the last 1 hour, still contemplating if she should risk eating or holding her pee or starting the baby cry-pocalypse, all while dad runs to Target to get more diapers because the baby is a professional pooper, both parents pushing past the fact that they haven’t had more than 2 hours of interrupted sleep (10 minutes here, 3 there), and by the time this thought is done, her baby is hungry again, and she still hasn’t been able to eat herself because making a sandwich requires more strength than the vessel she calls her body can produce at the moment. If you think that’s bad, it’s actually worse…But true!

mealt train ideas for new parents

Okay, you’re now convinced that you need to run out the door with your famous casserole in tow to save your new mom & dad friends, but HOLD ON! There’s a right way to save them and a wrong way to save them.

Let’s look at the wrong way first, before you get yourself on the bad list with your friends.

Don’t make it complicated. If they have to pillage their pantry for some rare spice like black pepper, or navigate the valley of frozen breastmilk in the freezer for some protein, then you’ve already failed them. Hoping they have what is needed to finish a dish is already too much, even if they have it, new parent brain syndrome blinds them of the location, especially if it’s under their nose. So forget about an ingredient bag from your local Wholefoods, or a build your own taco tray, they’re too busy building a wall of diapers around the nursery. Also, don’t expect you’re getting dishes, or cutlery back this year, maybe next year, but definitely not cleaned.

feeding new moms

Now let’s look at the right way.

Do make it so easy that on a scale of “1 to put food in their mouth for them”, you’re right under that “load the fork level.” For example; the meal should be balanced with the right amount of veggies, protein, bread/carbs, fruit, and hydration. Bonus points to the friends that bring dessert, and a craft beer for whoever isn’t nursing. Include a serving tray (one for each parent), or plate that you don’t care to get back, and is preferably disposable. Make sure you include the necessary tools, such as a fork, spoon, cup, napkins, wet wipes, knife, straw, etc.. There should be no prep need to consume this meal. Having leftovers earns bonus points.

And PLEASE, just drop it off, unless they specifically say the words “we’d like to consume this meal in your presence while you observe our child for the next 10 minutes, then you need to leave before things get real.”

You get the idea now. Great! Go forth savior of the savory…

Oh, you still don’t know what to drop off? Here are some ideas:

 

1.       Chipotle or a Homemade Mexican Bowl.

Include utensils, napkins, sauce, GUACAMOLE, and chicken (because it’s a safe bet). If they’re vegetarian, or Vegan, just hold the animal protein, cheese, and sourcream, and add some Sofritas and or Fajita Veggies. Add a drink, and don’t forget the chips!

Chipotle Mexican Bowl Breastfeeding

2.       Pizza (not frozen!)

Bring the paper plates, some parmesan cheese, red pepper, and one of those brownie boxes they serve at Dominos. Safest to go with a peperoni pizza, or cheese if their vegetarian.

Pizza While Pregnant

3.       BLT or ALT

Bacon Lettuce Tomato OR Avocado Lettuce Tomato. Both sandwiches can be purchased at your local grocery deli, or subway. A nice lemonade will pair well. If you are not “ripe avocado challenged”, and aren’t a bacon newbie, then go ahead and make the meal at home. Add some chips, or fruit, or fries, or all.

Best Meal Train Foods

4.       Breakfast Burritos

Yes you can eat breakfast food anytime, and probably should, but this early morning meal is sometimes forgotten by friends. Reclaim the best meal of the day by providing a one handed food that is sure to please Meatatarians, Vegetarians, and Vegans alike. You can provide, bacon and eggs, or potatoes + eggs and cheese, or tofu + potatoes and veggies. Bring some OJ, and a waffle. MMMMMmmmmmMMMM MMMMMMmmmmm!

Vegan Meal Train Ideas

5.       Snacks

Stay balanced on the healthy-garbage spectrum. Oatmeal cookies, baked chips, sparkling water, fruit salad, GUACAMOLE, chips and salsa, fresh squeezed fruit juice, etc.. Or just let them indulge in some flaming hot munchies.

Best Snacks For New Parents

 

You are now ready my Padawan. However if you still want to be safe about it, you can just visit their Meal Train page or have a close relative or friend (you can be that person) start one. Meal Trains are great because the subtly say “bring food, drop it at the door, text us when it is present, and we shall consume in peace. Thanks! We love you!” Meal Trains detail what food to bring, what to put in the garbage disposal, and any food allergies such as green beans (no one likes green beans). You can go to Meal Train Page Here to learn more.

Best Recipes For New Mom

Still confused? Hire a luxury chef, like Gordon Ramsey or Chef Boyardee. J/K. Order some Chinese delivery or other tasty food delivery. You can go to DoorDash.com Page Here to find out who delivers in your area.

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I'm Pregnant! Now What?!

All the excitement, fear (lets be real), and confusion is swirling in you, and making you double think everything you need to get done.

im pregnant, what do i do?

 Aside from jumping for joy, there are a few things that you should probably do. The following helps you get some of those things scheduled.

1.       Get In The Healthy Mindset

If you already have a healthy lifestyle, make sure you’re continuing your good habits, but don’t neglect a second look at your exercise and diet as you may be missing some key supplements such as folate or extra iron.

what should i eat when pregnant?

If you’re new to a healthy lifestyle, that’s okay too. It’s never too late to start making good choices. Some things you can do easily is reducing the amount of caffeine you drink, adding more water, eating extra protein, light exercise (see your midwife or obstetrician for advice), and even getting better (sometimes more) sleep.

You’re going to want to practice relaxation too, as a calm and centered you now, is a warrior when it’s time to push later.

2.       Choose a Midwife or Obstetrician

Midwife

Now; we are biased and do love the culture midwives bring to your birth, but there are many great obstetricians we know and love. Our advice; do your research!

You can start by calling your insurance company or visiting their “provider finder” site and making a list of the providers you’d like to interview. You can also check out Yelp and Google for the top midwife or obstetrician in your area.

3.       Find A Doula!

Read these articles if you have questions such as;

best doula in orange county
the best doula in orange county california

In the meantime, here is a simple way to answer this. Every expecting mother should hire a Birth Doula if possible. Birth Doulas provide necessary support during your pregnancy, and labor, and sometimes postpartum. Your Birth Doula experience is one you won’t regret, and their services can sometimes be covered by your insurance, HAS, or FSA.

To Find A Childbirth Doula Click Here. You can also use Yelp and/or Google to find Doulas in your area. The best Doulas are the ones who you feel a great connection with and are willing to grow their relationship with you… Like A Bradley Method Doula!

4.       Get Your Childbirth Education Classes Scheduled

best bradley method class in orange county

You’re probably reading this because it’s your first go around in the baby making business. Don’t worry, there are plenty of caring people who make it their business to teach you anything and everything you need to know.

Best Childbirth Class In Orange County

 

A well rounded class like The Bradley Method Of Husband Coached Childbirth will give you the best education on what to expect, healthy diet, labor practice, contraction timing, relaxation, mental and emotional preparedness, and partner (coach) involvement, and much, much more!

Consider booking early, as it gives you more time to practice the skills you’ll learn. If you’d like more information on Childbirth Classes, Click Here.

 

5.       Prepare To Announce The News

Don’t forget to tell dad first! Ha!

pregnancy announcement

Some moms like to tell their family and friends right away! Making a phone call, sending a text, or posting on social media are great ways to announce. But don’t forget, you only get to share the news for the first time, one time. So think about a cute way you’d like to do it too. You can hire a photographer to shoot some announcement photos, or create a clever card for mailing (Checkout Pinterest For More Ideas).

pregnancy announcemennt

You can also wait to announce the news until later. There are many moms that like to wait until their second trimester, and that’s okay too. It’s you and your baby, do what’s right for you.

There are plenty of other things you should also do, but we like to keep things simple here. Some other things we won’t go into detail are, talking about finances, going to the dentist, abstaining from foods or drugs that can negatively affect your baby, buying a car seat, etc.. This article was meant to help you get some of the basic things on your to do list.

If You have any questions about this topic or would like to learn more about natural childbirth, Doulas, Diet, etc., please contact us here, or DM/comment on our Instagram page via @babylovencp.com.

How To Prevent Tearing: The Easy Way!

There’s a pain out there (more like down there) that can rival that of a 100mph toe stub on a cold winter night. They call it the Perineum Tear! DUN DUN DUN!

But there’s a way to defeat this foe before you even have to push, and it’s actually pretty easy. The following is a list of three easy ways to prevent a Perineum Tear.

1.       Kegel:

This isn’t one of those exercises that requires you to get up at 5am, and lace up a pair of running shoes. You can actually do Kegels sitting, at the office, during breakfast, at a park, during a movie, buying groceries, you can pretty much Kegel anywhere, and we highly recommend you do. No spotter needed! Kegels is a real exercise to strengthen the muscles in your Vagina. But how to I perform such a move? Is it like twerking? Both great questions. Your midwife can show you how to do a Kegel, and possibly even how to do a twerk. You can also learn how to Kegel while taking your natural childbirth class; The Bradley Method! You can learn more about the Bradley Method Class by clicking the link!

How To Kegel While Pregnant

 

2.       Relax:

how to relax while pregnant

Do whatever gets you chilled out as often as you can. Learning to relax, can be useful, especially during a stressful time. The more relaxed you are the more in tune you are with your body and thus the more control you’ll have during labor. Having this control during labor can help you get through it quicker and thus reduce the risk of a tear. If you’re new at relaxing, or you want to pretend you’re new, employ your partner to practice relaxation techniques, and relaxation massages on you. If you’re gutsy, hand your partner a palm leaf and some grapes. Great tools for relaxing include essential oils, music (anything that calms you), ottomans, meditation, exercise, etc.

 

3.       Squat:

pregnancy squat

Every day is squat day. Squats can help you become more flexible, allowing you to get into better labor positions (see below), and can also help you strengthen the muscles necessary to help you push more efficiently. Why is pushing efficiently so important? Well aside from a short labor, knowing when and how to push helps you avoid unnecessary stress to the perineum. If you’re wondering how to properly squat while pregnant, click this link for a great video.

 

4.       Get In The Right Position:

Like satisfying a hard to reach itch, getting in the right position can sometimes be tricky. Lucky for you there are plenty of bears scratching their backs on YouTube. But for that person more interested in learning the right labor positions, you can learn plenty of creative and proven positions to labor while reducing stress to your Perineum. One way to learn these positions is by taking a natural childbirth class like this one! Or by researching labor positions that keep you from laying on your back with legs in the air. Gravity and baby weight aren’t the best combo when trying to avoid Perineum tears. One position that helps reduce Perineum Tears is the side position (see below).

labor positions

Last, but not least, avoid any interventions during labor if possible. Interventions such as Pitocin, vacuums, and even certain physical exams can increase the risk of a Perineum Tear. Your goal should be to have an as natural and intervention free labor as possible. You may want to hire a Birth Doula to help ensure you have the type of birth you want. Click the Doula link here to learn more.

If you have any questions about this topic or would like to learn more about natural childbirth, please contact us here, or DM/Comment on our Instagram page via @babylovencp.com

Your Newborn Is Hungry: Foods To Avoid!

Uhm… all of them… ha! But seriously, a newborn baby is going to get everything it needs to grow from breast milk.

No need to feed water or purees; breastmilk has an adaptability factor, which means it changes as you feed to meet your baby’s nutritional needs. Breastmilk comes in three basic stages, Colostrum, Foremilk, and Hindmilk. Each stage has the perfect balance of water, protein, minerals, vitamins, and fats—there is nothing missing from breast milk.

breastmilk

Breastmilk is even recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics, as the exclusive food source for your baby for at least the first six months. Some mothers may choose to continue breastfeeding even longer with many studies pointing to breastmilk as an integral part of a toddler’s diet. We’ll discuss more about breastmilk in a later blog.

In the meantime, if you’re interested in Breastfeeding Workshops here in Orange County, click the SERVICES LINK HERE, and then click the BREASTFEEDING LINK.

Here is a list of two foods to avoid during the first 12 months, and possibly longer.

Honey

Honey For Infants

Although very nutritious, honey may also harbor bacterium that can lead to infant botulism which can become fatal. It’s not worth the risk while your newborn’s digestive system is still developing. It’s recommended that you avoid feeding your newborn honey for the first year.

Many parents who choose to introduce honey, prefer to offer their toddlers (1year+) raw honey. Raw honey is an unprocessed honey that is known to have more anti-bacterial properties than processed honey.

Cow Milk

Cow Milk For Infants

Yup! What was at one point the normal alternative to breastmilk, is now known to be too harsh for a newborns stomach to digest. Cow’s milk is designed to grow calves into half ton cows in as little as a year—this means that the amount of proteins and fats in cow’s milk is too concentrated for your newborn to digest and may in fact cause kidney damage amongst other future ailments.

Cow’s milk is still regarded for creating healthy bones in growing children, but new studies show that this may not be the case. Do your research before introducing dairy to your child.

If breastmilk is not an option, you may want to research alternatives such as coconut milk, almond milk, supplemented milk/milk formulas.

If you have any questions about Breastfeeding, nutrition during pregnancy, or childbirth classes, please CONTACT US HERE or DM/Comment on our Instagram via @babylovencp

How To Naturally Reduce Pain During Labor

Obviously childbirth is painful. Contractions can be powerful, the “ring of fire”—although momentary—does hurt, and back labor is more than uncomfortable.

labor pain

 

But! Don’t rush to an epidural right away. There are plenty of safe, and natural ways to reduce pain. Using one of these natural alternatives can reduce the amount of “drugs” that enters your newborn’s body, help you better understand what is happening to your body during labor, and help your coach become more involved in your labor and reducing your pain.

The following are three easy ways to reduce pain during labor the natural way;

Childbirth Preparation Classes:

Yep! Getting your schooling on! Knowing what your body is going through as it transitions into pushing, or why you feel pain from a posterior baby is a great way to take control of how you feel during pain.

Classes like The Bradley Method cover how to eat for a faster labor, exercises to strengthen your body for labor, and relaxation techniques to calm you and help you push through the pain.

In the Bradley Method, the belief is that childbirth shouldn’t solely be a mom thing. Instead, Husband/partner coached childbirth is the foundation of the course. Knowing that you’re Husband/partner will be involved in every aspect of your prenatal, labor, and postnatal journey will help you reduce stress and relax. The education you both receive will help you better manage the pain of childbirth.

If you’re interested in Childbirth Classes to help reduce labor pain, click our Class Link Here to learn more.

reduce labor pain with a doula

Aroma Therapy:

With a rise in popularity, Diffusers and Essential oils are a great way to reduce pain during childbirth. You may be asking; “How does aroma therapy work for labor?”, well easy… actually it’s pretty technical, but lucky for you we’ve condensed the info into an easy to understand explanation.

During Aroma Therapy, essential oil molecules are disbursed through a diffuser and inhaled. These molecules enter your body, reach the brain and affect the limbic system. The limbic system is responsible for emotions, stress, and hormone balance—all things that affect how you process pain in a good way.

If you’re still unsure how to diffuse, or which type of oils to use, research and experiment at home before going into labor. If you have a Doula, you can also ask if she provides aromatherapy. If you still have questions, click the DOULA LINK HERE to learn how we use essential oils during your labor.

Essential Oil Diffuser During Labor

Massage Therapy:

Specifically massage therapy that is performed by your partner. Whether your partner is an all-star foot therapist, or alternatively has sand paper hands that do more damage than you began with, all partners can learn how to give better massage during labor.

“How exactly does massage reduce labor pain?” I’m so glad you asked! Labor Massage therapy relaxes muscle tissue which helps reduce painful contractions and spasms. Reducing muscle spasms will also reduce nerve compression which in turn relieves pain signals going to your brain.

“What if my partner doesn’t know safe and effective labor massage?”, you’re in luck. Click the Bradley Method Class Link HERE to enroll and start training today! We’ll have that husband/partner of yours giving you the best massages and relaxation techniques on earth. There is also a class where your partner gets to feel a massage first hand (for learning purposes of course) ;)

Massage During Labor

Your Doula is also prepared to step in and use her massage skills to help you reduce pain during labor. If you still need to find a Doula, click this DOULA LINK HERE or click the BLOG to learn more.

As always, if you have any questions on this topic or any other topics we haven’t covered please feel free to contact us HERE or comment/DM us on Instagram via @babylovencp.

Your Childbirth Support and Doula,

Christy Gochez

Can I Eat During Labor?

Do I currently have a craving? Is water wet? Do I perform better when I eat? Yes, gosh darn it, yes!

eating during labor

Eat! Acquire sustenance and fuel your body for the marathon that is labor!

Studies show that eating during labor can help stabilize what your body uses as energy sources (fat, protein, sugar) and can reduce the level of acidity in both your blood and baby’s blood, which WILL lead to more contractions (this is good) and a shorter labor (this is double chocolate chip cookie dough ice-cream good!)

So now you’re probably thinking what you can eat, and how you can sneak double chocolate chip cookie dough ice-cream into your delivery room. Let’s get serious though.

If you’re room or hospital provides you should at least pack a microwave meal or two, but most importantly you should pack snacks that are easy to digest, nutritious, and easy to pack. After all, you might have to be discreet as some Labor and Delivery staffs don’t like mom eating during labor (we’ll get into this on another blog later)

The following is a list of foods you may want to eat during labor:

healthy food during labor

 

Banana: comes with nature’s wrapper and can stay out for long periods of time. Great for increasing blood sugar too!

Berries: they’re tasty, and can be packed in a snack size Ziploc for easy access and disposal.

Baby carrots: they can sometimes come prepackaged and make for a crunchy snack that gets some vitamin A into you too!

Snack bars: Our favorite are the Larabar because they’re whole food based, and pack 28grams of carbs and 4 grams of protein.

Protein bars: Lenny and Larrys cookies are good pick but any easily digestible protein is a sure win.

Popsicles: bring a cooler with an icepack! A great way to hydrate and cool down too.

Peanut Butter: We like Laura Scudder’s Smooth and Unsalted variety, because there is only one ingredient; PEANUTS. Great with the carrot sticks or in a PB&J sandwich.

Trail mix: Whatever your heart desires.

Honey Sticks: easy to open and turns into energy very quickly!

 

DON’T FORGET TO HYDRATE!

Drink plenty of fluids, and have a sippy cup handy. You can fill the cup with water or a sports drink or with ice chips. I recommend going to 7eleven and buying a big gulp (what you fill it with is your choice) and using that as your water or ice chip cup. If you’re in a hospital; your Doula or your partner can ask for it to be filled for them so the staff can’t deny!

And we also can’t forget the postpartum food

snacks during labor

Orange juice (Bradley Method students get this one) and a nutritious high protein, good fat and carb meal such as oatmeal, grilled cheese, or ALT (Avocado, Lettuce, Tomato). After all, you’re going to need the nutrients to recover and as preparation for breast feeding.

As always, if you have questions about what to eat, how to deal with hospital staff, our Doula Services, The Bradley Method, or anything else, please feel free to ask us via contact button or our Instagram: @babylovencp.com