How To Feed New Parents

If you think that brining a meal to new parents is a nice gesture, you’re right. But! It’s ALSO a sanity, energy, hair pigment saving act.

Making a sandwich, seems easy right? Well you ungrateful sandwich maker, try doing it while being a new parent.

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You see, new parents aren’t like us, let me explain; if you’re reading this around lunch time, you can probably get up, walk towards the fridge, put something together and come back to finish this blog. Easy!

A new mom on the other hand, will be hungry (sometimes hAngry), while feeding her baby for the 10th time in the last 1 hour, still contemplating if she should risk eating or holding her pee or starting the baby cry-pocalypse, all while dad runs to Target to get more diapers because the baby is a professional pooper, both parents pushing past the fact that they haven’t had more than 2 hours of interrupted sleep (10 minutes here, 3 there), and by the time this thought is done, her baby is hungry again, and she still hasn’t been able to eat herself because making a sandwich requires more strength than the vessel she calls her body can produce at the moment. If you think that’s bad, it’s actually worse…But true!

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Okay, you’re now convinced that you need to run out the door with your famous casserole in tow to save your new mom & dad friends, but HOLD ON! There’s a right way to save them and a wrong way to save them.

Let’s look at the wrong way first, before you get yourself on the bad list with your friends.

Don’t make it complicated. If they have to pillage their pantry for some rare spice like black pepper, or navigate the valley of frozen breastmilk in the freezer for some protein, then you’ve already failed them. Hoping they have what is needed to finish a dish is already too much, even if they have it, new parent brain syndrome blinds them of the location, especially if it’s under their nose. So forget about an ingredient bag from your local Wholefoods, or a build your own taco tray, they’re too busy building a wall of diapers around the nursery. Also, don’t expect you’re getting dishes, or cutlery back this year, maybe next year, but definitely not cleaned.

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Now let’s look at the right way.

Do make it so easy that on a scale of “1 to put food in their mouth for them”, you’re right under that “load the fork level.” For example; the meal should be balanced with the right amount of veggies, protein, bread/carbs, fruit, and hydration. Bonus points to the friends that bring dessert, and a craft beer for whoever isn’t nursing. Include a serving tray (one for each parent), or plate that you don’t care to get back, and is preferably disposable. Make sure you include the necessary tools, such as a fork, spoon, cup, napkins, wet wipes, knife, straw, etc.. There should be no prep need to consume this meal. Having leftovers earns bonus points.

And PLEASE, just drop it off, unless they specifically say the words “we’d like to consume this meal in your presence while you observe our child for the next 10 minutes, then you need to leave before things get real.”

You get the idea now. Great! Go forth savior of the savory…

Oh, you still don’t know what to drop off? Here are some ideas:

 

1.       Chipotle or a Homemade Mexican Bowl.

Include utensils, napkins, sauce, GUACAMOLE, and chicken (because it’s a safe bet). If they’re vegetarian, or Vegan, just hold the animal protein, cheese, and sourcream, and add some Sofritas and or Fajita Veggies. Add a drink, and don’t forget the chips!

Chipotle Mexican Bowl Breastfeeding

2.       Pizza (not frozen!)

Bring the paper plates, some parmesan cheese, red pepper, and one of those brownie boxes they serve at Dominos. Safest to go with a peperoni pizza, or cheese if their vegetarian.

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3.       BLT or ALT

Bacon Lettuce Tomato OR Avocado Lettuce Tomato. Both sandwiches can be purchased at your local grocery deli, or subway. A nice lemonade will pair well. If you are not “ripe avocado challenged”, and aren’t a bacon newbie, then go ahead and make the meal at home. Add some chips, or fruit, or fries, or all.

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4.       Breakfast Burritos

Yes you can eat breakfast food anytime, and probably should, but this early morning meal is sometimes forgotten by friends. Reclaim the best meal of the day by providing a one handed food that is sure to please Meatatarians, Vegetarians, and Vegans alike. You can provide, bacon and eggs, or potatoes + eggs and cheese, or tofu + potatoes and veggies. Bring some OJ, and a waffle. MMMMMmmmmmMMMM MMMMMMmmmmm!

Vegan Meal Train Ideas

5.       Snacks

Stay balanced on the healthy-garbage spectrum. Oatmeal cookies, baked chips, sparkling water, fruit salad, GUACAMOLE, chips and salsa, fresh squeezed fruit juice, etc.. Or just let them indulge in some flaming hot munchies.

Best Snacks For New Parents

 

You are now ready my Padawan. However if you still want to be safe about it, you can just visit their Meal Train page or have a close relative or friend (you can be that person) start one. Meal Trains are great because the subtly say “bring food, drop it at the door, text us when it is present, and we shall consume in peace. Thanks! We love you!” Meal Trains detail what food to bring, what to put in the garbage disposal, and any food allergies such as green beans (no one likes green beans). You can go to Meal Train Page Here to learn more.

Best Recipes For New Mom

Still confused? Hire a luxury chef, like Gordon Ramsey or Chef Boyardee. J/K. Order some Chinese delivery or other tasty food delivery. You can go to DoorDash.com Page Here to find out who delivers in your area.

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10 Interview Questions You Need To Ask Your Doula!

Hiring a Doula is a great idea, but can be a nerve-racking experience if you don’t know what questions to ask. Luckily for you, we’ve made a list of must ask questions you need to ask your Doula during the interview.

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Before you continue, you may want to read the following; What Is A Birth Doula? OR How Much Should I Pay A Doula? OR How Do I Choose A Doula?

Here are the top 10 questions to ask during a Doula Interview:

1.       Why Did You Become A Doula?

Do you want to really get to know your Birth Doula? This is the opening question you should be asking. Being a Childbirth Doula is demanding, physically, and emotionally; which is why most Doulas need to have a genuine passion for what they do. You should hear a refreshing answer as to why they became a Doula, and some sincere dialogue on why they continue to be a Doula.

2.       How Did You Become A Doula?

Here you get into the technical aspect. You’re going to want to know what certification or training they completed for this job. The answer should bring you comfort that you’re hiring a professional.  If you’re interviewing a Doula with no certifications, or formal training, then you need to ask what experience has made her well equipped to handle a birth.

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3.       How Do You Plan To Work With Me And Dad During The Birth?

You should aim to find out what her Doula style is, and how adaptable she is too. She may be very caring and soft in her natural style, and that might be exactly what you’re looking for, but you may also want someone who can switch to being a strong coach/advocate at a moment’s notice. You can ask about how she supports dad too.

4.       What Additional Training Do You Have? What Additional Services Do You Offer?

A Doula may have extra training that sets her aside from other candidates. The extra training may be useful prenatal, and/or postpartum.

Some of the training you’re looking for is; Bradley Method (childbirth educator), Placenta Encapsulation, Rebozo Certification, Infant Massage, Breastfeeding Consulting, Newborn Photography, Infant CPR, and maybe even Car Seat Installation.

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5.       Do You Attend All Types Of Births? Hospital Births? Home Birth? Birth Centers? Water Births?

You want to get a sense of how versatile your Birth Doula is. If you’re giving birth at a birth center, and your doula doesn’t attend births there, then that might be a deal breaker. If you are undecided, this can allow your Doula to make recommendations on the type and place of birth.

6.       Do You Have A Backup Doula? Can I Meet Her?

Life happens, and sometimes an emergency, like an accident, or health can delay and or prevent your Doula from attending your birth. You need to know if your Doula has a backup, and what exactly happens if a Backup Doula is needed. You may want to also meet the Backup Doula; your Doula should be able to coordinate that.

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7.       What Does Your Pricing Include?

You want to know how many prenatal visits are included, if any. You should find out when they are on call for you. This should open up a conversation on what tools they bring to the birth. Some Doulas offer aroma therapy, or a Rebozo (you can read about that here), they can also offer photography and Placenta services.

 

8.       Do You Have Reviews We Can Read? Do You Have A Website?

You can learn a lot about your Doula from her YELP and her WEBSITE. A Doula who considers herself a professional, will have an online portfolio with great reviews. You can also ask if they have a business Facebook, or business Instagram. If she doesn’t have a portfolio, ask if you can call her references.

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9.       What Is Your Fee?

Cha-ching. You need to know how much your investment is going to be. Doulas can charge anywhere from $950-$3,000 on average here in the OC area. Be sure to talk about payment options, and how your Doula can help you with HSA/FSA/insurance reimbursements.

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10.   Did You Click? Is There A Connection?

This last question is really for you, but don’t be afraid to flip the script and ask her if she feels like you clicked too.

Above all, if you have a good connection, and you trust her, pricing, and a website might not be as big of a concern. By the end, you should feel like this process was less an interview and more of a good conversation instead.

Of course there are many more questions you can ask, like; what’s your spirit animal? But this should give you a good idea on the best questions to ask.

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