Seven Baby Items You Can Skip Buying

Baby showers, congratulatory gifts, registries-galore—there is so much to buy (especially during the nesting stage). But you might not need it all; even if the experts say you do! Save a few bucks and put them into your savings account instead with these tips on what not to buy.

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There are a few things that play into what you should buy to prepare for your baby.  The biggest thing being; advertising! Yup, those ads in the moms groups, or the commercials between your favorite shows, and even the social listening ads you see when you log into Facebook, play a big part in what you buy for your baby.

When you’re becoming a new parent (again too), you tend to be easily persuaded by advertisements. Claims that, the high-tech thingamabob is going to ensure your baby is extra safe, or that the luxury material on the whatchamacallit guarantees a baby that sleeps through the night, are everywhere. That’s how a ~60+ Billion dollar industry makes their money. Estimates say that new parents will spend approx. $12,000.00 on their first baby in the first year alone.

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By the time you’re done making the list of necessary purchases, you may think “Does my baby really need ALL of this?” or you might just unknowingly swipe the Babies-R-Us card (for the perks of course). I hope you read this before you swipe the card, it might save you some green and free up some garage space.

Here’s a list of items you most likely don’t need.

1. Changing Table a.k.a. That Furniture Thing You Pile Clothes On

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When our son was born, we went out and bought a very aesthetically pleasing changing table, with shelves for necessary items like diapers, wipes, and a plethora of unnecessary items like a baseball themed “peepee cover” (you know, so you don’t get tagged while changing a diaper).

We really believed that the changing table was necessary, and we started using it immediately. But just as quickly came the sense that it was more cumbersome than useful. At night we had to get up, pick our son out of bed (we co-sleep), carry him to the changing table, wrestle out a diaper in a sleepwalker state of mind, then clean him and dispose of the evidence all while holding an awkward position between leaning in and leaning over. As time passed—like a few days, really—it became easier to stack a few diapers and wipes on the night stand, and change him in bed. The changing table eventually became the diaper rack/baby clothes pile holder/my work suit hanger (I know some of you know what I’m talking about). A couple hundred bucks that would have been better spent on more diapers; because that’s how diapers go.

 

2. Diaper Pail a.k.a. Diaper Silo

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First of all, if your baby is being breastfed her diapers aren’t going to be as putrid as the Arm-N-Hammer filter says they will. It’s known that formula fed babies can make more interesting odors than breastfed babies. Regardless, like beauty in eyes, odors are in the nose of the smeller, and your baby’s diaper might make you suspect they’re eating nuclear waste.

Don’t run to BuyBuy Baby just yet though. Diaper Pails aren’t things that can really be reused, or re gifted, and when your baby is old enough and graduates the diaper stage, you’re going to send it to the dump. If you’re stuck on the idea of locking up some offending diapers in a diaper coffin, then go to Target, buy a lidded waste basket, some doggie business bags, and baking soda. Add baking soda to the bin, package the diaper in a doggy bag, and send it to diaper afterlife in the receptacle. Saved you some bucks, and you can still reuse all the items even after baby graduates the diaper stage.

 

3. A Crib a.k.a. Escape Practice

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This one is based on sleeping choices. For us, we co-sleep. Not having a crib just makes sense. We started with a crib, and tried to get our son to enjoy his personal sleeping space. The only accomplishment was watching my son cry, and not getting enough sleep. We quickly felt we should try other things. We tried the bassinet for a while, and that worked well. As soon as he was strong enough to roll around in it, we moved him into our bed. Of course we did our research on co sleeping, and made some adjustments on our sleeping positons, but it worked great. We sold the crib, and invested in some waterproof sheets. Ha!

 

4. Shoes a.k.a. Giuseppe Juniors/Baby Jordans/Any Shoes

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Let’s make this one super simple… Your infant cannot walk! But what happens when he/she learns to walk? Great question! There is such a thing, that looks very cute, yet cost so little…socks (with bottom grips if you must), and they’ll work fine for the type of walking your little one will be doing. Now, if your 10 month old is found hiking a 5K, please purchase some baby hiking boots, and a shaving kit, as he’s probably the most interesting baby in the world. When you do get to an appropriate age/foot size, my advice would be don’t spend too much right away—those toes do grow fast. When they can fit in a shoe for at least 6 months, invest in some reinforced play shoes. Nikes will turn into spaghetti real fast.

 

5. Blankets a.k.a. Cute Fluffy Danger Blankies

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Save your baby from a hazard. Fluffy blankets can be heavy, insulating (overheating), and a choking hazard. Your safest bet is going to be a receiving blanket, or a swaddle blanket. These types of wraps are ventilated, appropriately insulated, and easy to clean. Thank Nana for quilting that awesome keepsake, and then hang it on the wall or keep it in the garage until she visits again.

 

6. Wipe Warmer a.k.a. Unnecessary Booty Luxury

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Have you heard of heat? Your hands give it off. Rubbing/holding a wipe in a closed hand can warm it right up. No fear of burns with this method. I’m not going to lie, if you happen to not warm the wipe in your hands long enough, the slight coolness may surprise your baby. Don’t worry though, they get used it, and it’s not torture. I’m sure your mom and dad didn’t have an electric wipe warmer, and you’re fine, but if you really want to spend money in the baby wipes section, use $100 bills.

 

7. Diaper Bag a.k.a. Mom's New Designer Bag

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Well this one is a toughie too. I’m not saying to walk around the shopping mall holding baby in one hand, while carrying a diaper and wipes in the other hand. I’m suggesting (from experience), that a backpack (even one with only 2 compartments) is more than good enough. I saved a hundred bucks, when I went to H&M and bought a backpack with a drawstring, and button closure (like one of those hipster bags) instead of the dad bag I really wanted. In my defense, the dad bag was a manly diaper bag. If you pack logically; wipes, diapers, snacks, bottles, clothes, are pretty easy to access and manage. Most diaper bags aren’t anything more than a confusing puzzle of extra pockets with an outrages price tag. As our son got older, carrying extra clothes, and snacks is still very practical in our bag.

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Hopefully you save some money after reading this (you’re going to need it for that toddler urinal you’ve always wanted to buy). If you already bought some of these items, check with the store to see if they’ll take it back (even without a receipt they can sometimes give you store credit.)

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author:  Ernie Gochez, Newborn Photographer

How To Prevent Tearing: The Easy Way!

There’s a pain out there (more like down there) that can rival that of a 100mph toe stub on a cold winter night. They call it the Perineum Tear! DUN DUN DUN!

But there’s a way to defeat this foe before you even have to push, and it’s actually pretty easy. The following is a list of three easy ways to prevent a Perineum Tear.

1.       Kegel:

This isn’t one of those exercises that requires you to get up at 5am, and lace up a pair of running shoes. You can actually do Kegels sitting, at the office, during breakfast, at a park, during a movie, buying groceries, you can pretty much Kegel anywhere, and we highly recommend you do. No spotter needed! Kegels is a real exercise to strengthen the muscles in your Vagina. But how to I perform such a move? Is it like twerking? Both great questions. Your midwife can show you how to do a Kegel, and possibly even how to do a twerk. You can also learn how to Kegel while taking your natural childbirth class; The Bradley Method! You can learn more about the Bradley Method Class by clicking the link!

How To Kegel While Pregnant

 

2.       Relax:

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Do whatever gets you chilled out as often as you can. Learning to relax, can be useful, especially during a stressful time. The more relaxed you are the more in tune you are with your body and thus the more control you’ll have during labor. Having this control during labor can help you get through it quicker and thus reduce the risk of a tear. If you’re new at relaxing, or you want to pretend you’re new, employ your partner to practice relaxation techniques, and relaxation massages on you. If you’re gutsy, hand your partner a palm leaf and some grapes. Great tools for relaxing include essential oils, music (anything that calms you), ottomans, meditation, exercise, etc.

 

3.       Squat:

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Every day is squat day. Squats can help you become more flexible, allowing you to get into better labor positions (see below), and can also help you strengthen the muscles necessary to help you push more efficiently. Why is pushing efficiently so important? Well aside from a short labor, knowing when and how to push helps you avoid unnecessary stress to the perineum. If you’re wondering how to properly squat while pregnant, click this link for a great video.

 

4.       Get In The Right Position:

Like satisfying a hard to reach itch, getting in the right position can sometimes be tricky. Lucky for you there are plenty of bears scratching their backs on YouTube. But for that person more interested in learning the right labor positions, you can learn plenty of creative and proven positions to labor while reducing stress to your Perineum. One way to learn these positions is by taking a natural childbirth class like this one! Or by researching labor positions that keep you from laying on your back with legs in the air. Gravity and baby weight aren’t the best combo when trying to avoid Perineum tears. One position that helps reduce Perineum Tears is the side position (see below).

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Last, but not least, avoid any interventions during labor if possible. Interventions such as Pitocin, vacuums, and even certain physical exams can increase the risk of a Perineum Tear. Your goal should be to have an as natural and intervention free labor as possible. You may want to hire a Birth Doula to help ensure you have the type of birth you want. Click the Doula link here to learn more.

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Your Newborn Is Hungry: Foods To Avoid!

Uhm… all of them… ha! But seriously, a newborn baby is going to get everything it needs to grow from breast milk.

No need to feed water or purees; breastmilk has an adaptability factor, which means it changes as you feed to meet your baby’s nutritional needs. Breastmilk comes in three basic stages, Colostrum, Foremilk, and Hindmilk. Each stage has the perfect balance of water, protein, minerals, vitamins, and fats—there is nothing missing from breast milk.

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Breastmilk is even recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics, as the exclusive food source for your baby for at least the first six months. Some mothers may choose to continue breastfeeding even longer with many studies pointing to breastmilk as an integral part of a toddler’s diet. We’ll discuss more about breastmilk in a later blog.

In the meantime, if you’re interested in Breastfeeding Workshops here in Orange County, click the SERVICES LINK HERE, and then click the BREASTFEEDING LINK.

Here is a list of two foods to avoid during the first 12 months, and possibly longer.

Honey

Honey For Infants

Although very nutritious, honey may also harbor bacterium that can lead to infant botulism which can become fatal. It’s not worth the risk while your newborn’s digestive system is still developing. It’s recommended that you avoid feeding your newborn honey for the first year.

Many parents who choose to introduce honey, prefer to offer their toddlers (1year+) raw honey. Raw honey is an unprocessed honey that is known to have more anti-bacterial properties than processed honey.

Cow Milk

Cow Milk For Infants

Yup! What was at one point the normal alternative to breastmilk, is now known to be too harsh for a newborns stomach to digest. Cow’s milk is designed to grow calves into half ton cows in as little as a year—this means that the amount of proteins and fats in cow’s milk is too concentrated for your newborn to digest and may in fact cause kidney damage amongst other future ailments.

Cow’s milk is still regarded for creating healthy bones in growing children, but new studies show that this may not be the case. Do your research before introducing dairy to your child.

If breastmilk is not an option, you may want to research alternatives such as coconut milk, almond milk, supplemented milk/milk formulas.

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